Posted in All About Self Control, Positive Flow

Stop, Think, and Breathe then Make the Right Choice!

In our fast-paced world, where the next big thing is just a click away, decision-making can feel like a race against the clock. But have you ever found yourself regretting a choice you rushed into? Let’s take a fun and informative journey into the importance of pausing to think before making decisions that could lead to regret.

The Need for a Pause

When faced with a decision—whether it’s choosing a new job, an impulse purchase, or even a late-night snack—our instincts often scream for immediate action. However, research shows that a little pause can go a long way. It gives you a chance to evaluate your options, weigh the pros and cons, and avoid the dreaded buyers’ remorse.

Imagine standing in a store, eyeing a cutting-edge gadget. The excitement is palpable, but instead of carting it off immediately, take a deep breath. Ask yourself, “Do I really need this?” A simple pause can turn a potential mistake into a well-thought-out purchase.

Breathing Room for Clarity

In moments of high pressure, our brains can get flooded with adrenaline, clouding our judgment. By intentionally creating a buffer—whether it’s stepping outside, getting a glass of water, or even just counting to ten—you allow your mind to clear. This breathing room can lead to clarity, helping you see the situation from different angles.

Consider this: When planning a big life change, such as moving to a new city, it can feel overwhelming. Taking the time to research neighborhoods, cost of living, and job opportunities can reveal details you may have overlooked in your initial excitement.

The Power of Pros and Cons

One method to enhance your decision-making process is by creating a pros and cons list. The simple act of writing down your thoughts can provide surprising insights and highlight the hidden consequences of your decisions. It’s like giving your brain a workout—getting all the tangled thoughts out on paper can lead to breakthroughs you didn’t see before.

Remember, each line you add to that list could be a crossroads in your future!

When in Doubt, Consult

Sometimes, two (or more) heads are better than one. If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to consult with a friend, mentor, or colleague. They may have faced similar decisions, and their experiences can provide invaluable insights. Plus, talking it out can help you articulate your thoughts more clearly.

However, select your advisers wisely: choose people who give constructive feedback rather than those who simply confirm your biases.

Trust Your Gut… After the Pause

Ultimately, your intuition can serve as a powerful compass—once you’ve given yourself some time to reflect. After considering all factors and consulting with trusted friends, listen to your gut. If something feels off, don’t ignore that feeling. But if all signs point to “go,” then seize the opportunity with confidence!

Wrap-Up

In conclusion, taking a pause before making big decisions might just save you from unnecessary regret. Embrace the art of deliberation—give yourself the time to think, weigh your options, and seek input from others. After all, the best decisions are often those made with clarity and patience.

Next time you’re faced with a decision, remember: a little patience can go a long way in steering you away from the paths you might regret!

Stay thoughtful and have fun making decisions! For more tips and insights, feel free to reach out at [item] or visit [item]. Happy choosing!

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Teaching Kids to Make the Right Choices: A Fun Adventure!

Hey there, wonderful parents and guardians!

Have you ever stopped to think about how much we can learn from our kids? They’re little, but wow, do they have an immense capacity for choosing joy, laughter, and all things fun! When it comes to teaching them about making the right choices, it’s not just them who’ll get inspired; you might just find yourself inspired to make some right choices too!

Imagine this: your little one is faced with a decision—do they share their snacks or keep them all to themselves? As you guide them through that decision, you take a moment to reflect. What choice would bring more happiness? Sharing those cookies might lead to giggles, smiles, and a fantastic memory. And guess what? Watching that exchange of joy can stir something in you too! You might realize that sometimes, it’s those small acts that lead to larger happiness.

You can’t teach what you don’t do, right? So, let’s dive into this together! Lead by example. Show them how you tackle choices—big and small. Whether it’s picking up litter on your street, celebrating a friend’s good news, or just trying out a new recipe, let your actions speak louder than words. When your kids see you making positive choices, they’ll be encouraged to do the same!

And here’s the fun part: turn this journey into a game! Make a family chart of choices, where each act of kindness, each decision made together, earns stickers or tokens. Create awesome rewards for reaching goals as a family. It’s all about turning lessons into exciting adventures!

So, what do you think? Are you ready to inspire your little ones (and maybe give yourself a little motivation boost too)? Let’s sprinkle some fun into the decision-making process and grow together!

Cheers to joyful choices and playful learning!

Warmly,
Mr. Demby

Posted in Positive Flow

Help! I’m Transforming

There is a Scripture that says we are transformed by the renewing of our mind. I have often wondered what renewing our mind means. If our thinking is negative, we don’t want to renew that. If our thinking is destructive, we don’t want to renew that. We want to renew the “right mind”. Which brings me to the conversation of what does a healthy mind look and feel like. How do we know the Right mind? Is it subjective? Is it based off of how we feel? Or can it be measured? How do we know if we are renewing the right mind?

I asked all these questions just to say many times we feel that we can do things on our own, however, I have going to suggest that we see help. Renewing your mind has to be done with the help of a professional. A therapist, mental health professional, life coach, or psychologist can help you. Changing your thought pattern is one of the hardest things anyone can do. And I know it is easy to go look for a journal or some type of program that you can do it your self. However, as I realized, while I was working through my journal, some ideas and thoughts came up that I could not handle on my own, so I had to seek help!

It’s okay to seek help!

Daily Affirmations: Today is an amazing day. I love who I am becoming. I am excited about life. I take joy in seeking help. It’s OK to ask for help. I am learning to trust myself, and I am learning to trust others. ALL IS WELL IN MY CLASSROOM. ALL IS WELL IN MY SCHOOL. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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Mighty Good Monday!

Good Morning Most Mighty and Awesome Monday Warrior! Most of us don’t want to get up early, but we fight through it. We fight through all the adulting that it takes to get out of the house and to work on time. And for that. . . You Are Mighty! Today is a new day. It is the start of a brand new week. Which gives us brand new opportunities. So have a mighty good Monday.

Daily Affirmations

Today is an amazing day. I am a mighty warrior. I win. I loved and approve of myself. Great things are flowing my way. I can do anything. I set my mind to do. I am powerful. All is well in my classroom. All is well in my school. All is well in my world. All is well and I am safe.

#IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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The Night Is Over

Good Morning Most Wonderful Awesome People! I was thinking of the scripture that says, “weeping may endure for night, but joy comes in the morning”. As I have gotten older and read many books about this, and heard many sermons about it, I have come to understand that we get to shoot us win. We have a good morning. We get to choose when our weeping ends. This is exciting news, because no matter what we are going through, We get a choice. We can choose to feel sad, which is OK every now and then. But we also can choose to feel joy and happiness, whenever we want. So today, I choose joy. Today I will be excited about life. No matter what comes my way today, I choose joy.

Daily Affirmations

Today is an amazing day. I choose to feel good about myself. I love and approve of myself. I choose joy today. Choosing joy is my strength. My situation will not dictate my feelings of joy. I am excited about life. All is well in my classroom. All is well in my school. All is well in my world. All is well and I am safe.

#IBlessMyWordWithLove

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More Love to Me!

Good Morning Most Beautiful and Blessed People! There’s an old hymn that says “more love to thee oh, Christ, more love to thee.” Today I am going to change the words, and make it a little more selfish. I know the word selfish has a negative connotation, but to serve your self sometimes is the highest gift you can give. Today I pledge more love to me, oh Kyri more Love to me. I’m learning to love myself. I am learning to speak up for myself. I am learning that powerful one word sentence, no. I am learning that I am deserving of my own love. I am learning that I am deserving of the love of others. Dammit I look good and I love you. I’m looking at when I look in the mirror. I love myself.

Daily Affirmations

Today will be an amazing day. I look forward to everything that will happen today. Positive nuggets flow to meet throughout my day. I am worthy. I expect only good. Goodness flows to me all day every day. I expect a miracle.

All is well in my classroom. All is well in my school. All is well in my world. All is well and I am safe. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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I’m Coming Out!

Hey y’all! I know it has been a long time since I have posted here. However, I have not felt like myself in a long time. I feel like I am just coming out of the pandemic funk! So today, I just wanted to share how grateful I am for life and All that life means! I’m shaking on some of that old depression, and walking into a newness of life like I’ve never seen before. Let’s journey together to get back to the new norm!

Daily Affirmations:

I am grateful for life. I am happy and whole. My life is amazing. All things work together for good. Great things are flowing my way. I am happy, wealthy, healthy, whole, and complete. I love myself. I love who I am becoming.

At for my educators.…. All is well in my classroom. All is well in my school. All is well in my world. All is well and I am safe. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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Mr. Demby’s Class Was Featured in a PBS Learning Video!

Y’all check it out!

https://ket.pbslearningmedia.org/resource/sel-and-the-arts-video/social-and-emotional-learning-the-arts-for-every-classroom/

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Family Issues during The Holidays!

Good Morning Most Awesome and Wonderful World Changers! I know many people get depressed during the holidays because they have fallen out with their family. I’m sure there are other reasons but for many the loneliness of not being around family and friends is a big one.

In this time and space I want to say to those people what I said to myself years ago! RELEASE THE PEEVES AND DROP THE EXPECTATIONS!

This has helped me so much because I no longer try to control others with “Pet Peeves” and expectations. I love my family and friends for who they are. The only person I can control is me. I freed myself from watching others and trying to make others adjust themselves to me. I make the adjustment by understanding that everyone is doing the best they can with what they know and have at that moment. Others do what they do for their reason. I can only see with compassion and understanding. And as soon as I can’t see things this way; I will either go to a quiet room and do a quick meditation or go for a drive “to get something from the store”.

Either way let’s control our own thoughts and emotions and learn to see with compassion and understanding! In this, you will sometimes feel sorry for that person who is saying hateful things to you because you know that they feel horrible inside. That’s why they try to pass it on to others. Don’t let them…. You just walk in compassion and understanding! Do the best with what you have!

Holiday Affirmations: Everyday is a day of thanksgiving! I love myself. I love my family! I am loving and lovable! I release the need to control others and choose to see with compassion and understanding. I am healthy, wealthy, whole, and complete. ALL IS WELL IN MY MIND. ALL IS WELL IN MY LIFE. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE,