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Myself in the Middle?

I’m sitting here thinking about my life. People always say do what makes you happy. Think happy and joyful thoughts. But my mind seems to always be in that middle ooggy place. I’m never really happy, I’m never really sad, I’m never really angry. So I wonder, how can I go to a happy place. I have spent my life making sure people like me, making sure I didn’t offend anyone, being diplomatic, trying to make everyone in the group feel like they are apart, being humble and not thinking to highly of myself. The church, my grandmother, my aunts, my mother, my teachers all said to me, “Don’t get too high, cause when you fall you gotta see all the ones you passed on your way back down.” So my whole life has been spent being nice and humble and trying not to go too high in life. Then many of those same people said, “Save for a rainy day. Everyday won’t be on flowery beds of ease.” Meaning “the money will always run out.” See many of these saying seem to resonate with most of us as the way to live! I must say, it has created a pretty good life for me! I always seem to save money. But the money always seems to run out and I have to use my savings. I have always had my savings to fall back on. But most of my money always goes to doing for others and not myself. This has made me very popular with people! But it has destroyed my sense of who I truly am.

How can I know who I truly am, when I have spent my whole life suppressing my true feelings in order to be liked by people. This is why It’s hard for me to say, I love and accept myself just as I am. I don’t really know who I am! Because things I don’t want to do, I do for the sake of others.  Things I really want to say, I don’t say for the sake of others. My whole life, I have just been mediocre. I am going through my life, just looking at the way I have done things. Many times in high school and in college, I know the topic of discussion very well but I don’t say anything because I don’t want people to think I’m trying to be “all that”. Then I have developed the habit of acting like I can’t do something, so people will think I’m helpless and do things for me because people won’t help you if you act confident. I know I can teach and I’m very good at it. I know I can help teach other teachers how to teach and it would make their classroom a well oiled machine, but I sit back and don’t say anything because I don’t want other teachers to think I’m trying to be high and mighty. Rather than shine, just be mediocre and people will like you!

People will like you but you will never seem to build a strong friendship or relationship. I have a bunch of people that I know and that know me but not anyone that I can truly open up about who I am. Will they be my friend if they knew what I truly think? Will I be my friend if I knew what I truly think? I always think that people only want to be my friend or love me if they need me. No one would want to be my friend if they don’t need something from me. So my whole life I have surrounded myself with people that need me and that allow me to control them. That’s how I have developed relationships so that when they don’t me any more, they leave. Now there are a few people who have stayed with me through all of this, but in my mind I always feel like their going to leave at any time now. My College Choir Director once said, “Don’t get too close to anyone, so when they cut; they won’t cut deep.” I already had that way of thinking so when she said that, I took it to heart and made a lifestyle of it. Now trying to attract a mate seems to be harder than ever. Everybody that I attract always needs me to do something for them.

So saying all of this to say. I do love and accept myself as I am right here and now. I love and approve of mediocre, lonely, humble, hiding, but nice and sweet Kyri. However, I’m taking my power today! The power is always in the present moment! So right now, I choose to love myself and move myself to confident, worthy, loving, open and out front Kyri! I am GOOD ENOUGH! The real me is on it’s way out! I LOVE ALL OF ME! 

Affirmations: ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE. I ACCEPT THE PROCESS OF LIFE! I APPROVE OF MYSELF! I LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF JUST AS I AM RIGHT HERE AND NOW! I AM WILLING TO RELEASE THE PATTERN THAT IS IN ME THAT HAS CREATED THIS EXPERIENCE AND I TAKE MY OWN POWER BACK! I MOVE INTO JOY!

Author:

Kyri Demby, author, is a native Floridian, born and raised in Crestview, Fl. He is the middle child of seven children born to Linda Brown. Kyri began writing stories and songs at the age of thirteen. He received his Bachelor of Arts degree in Music Education as well as in Church Music from Bethune-Cookman University and also a Master of Education Degree in Educational Leadership from the University of South Florida. “Each one must reach one (or two or three)!” is Kyri’s belief about teaching and community service. He is a mentor to many students as well as other professionals. Kyri has written many stories and published several other books. . He has visited many schools, churches, and community centers teaching his playful parables and speaking to children. Kyri is the founder of Let Music Live Inc., "his pride and joy"; a community program incorporates music with drama. He believes that he is changing the world, one child at a time!

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