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Summer Fun: Games That Build Self-Control

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Summer is officially here, and with it comes longer days, warmer weather, and plenty of opportunities for fun! While it’s great to let kids run wild and burn off energy, remember that summer is also a fantastic time to subtly teach important life skills. One of the most valuable lessons you can impart is self-control.

Self-control isn’t just about good behavior; it’s a foundational skill that helps kids succeed in school, navigate social situations, and thrive in various environments. Think about it: sitting still in a classroom, waiting patiently at a restaurant, or being quiet during a church service all require a good dose of self-control.

The good news? You don’t need a textbook or a lecture to teach this! Many classic games are perfect for helping kids practice sitting still, being quiet, and managing their impulses. These aren’t just fun ways to pass the time; they’re powerful tools for developing crucial self-regulation skills.

Here are a few ideas for games that encourage stillness and quiet, perfect for those moments when you need a little calm amidst the summer excitement:

Hide-and-Seek

This timeless favorite is brilliant for fostering self-control. While one person counts, the hiders must find a spot and then remain absolutely still and silent, no matter how tempting it is to giggle or move. The thrill of not being found reinforces the importance of quiet and stillness.

Freeze Dance

Turn on some music and let your kids dance their hearts out. But when the music stops, they have to freeze in whatever position they’re in! This game challenges them to stop their bodies instantly and hold still until the music starts again. It’s a fantastic way to practice quick transitions and physical restraint.

Statues (or Red Light, Green Light)

Similar to freeze dance, the “Statues” game involves striking a pose and holding it perfectly still. You can call out different statue themes (e.g., “animal statues,” “sports statues”) to add to the fun. “Red Light, Green Light” is another variation where kids run on “green light” and must freeze immediately on “red light.” These games are excellent for practicing impulse control and physical stillness.

Incorporating these types of games into your summer routine provides a playful yet effective way to build essential self-control. Not only will you be creating lasting memories, but you’ll also be equipping your children with skills that will benefit them for years to come. So, this summer, embrace the quiet moments and play your way to better self-control!

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A Call to Radical Love: Praying for Our Political Opponents

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In these divisive times, it’s easy to feel the pull of anger, resentment, and even animosity towards those on the “other side” of the political spectrum. The news cycle, social media, and even everyday conversations can fuel a sense of “us vs. them.” But as followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard, a more profound way of living that transcends earthly divisions.

Let’s turn to the challenging yet transformative words of Jesus in Luke 6:28-30 (English Standard Version):

“bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either. Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back.”

What is God trying to tell us here? This passage is a radical call to agape love – an unconditional, self-sacrificing love that extends far beyond natural human affection or reciprocity. It’s about responding to hostility with grace, to injustice with generosity, and to anger with prayer.

Consider the profound implications for our political landscape:

  • For Black Christians who feel the sting of injustice: Perhaps you feel that certain policies or rhetoric from Donald Trump and many Republicans have been unjust, harmful, or dismissive of your experiences. The natural human response might be anger, bitterness, or a desire for retribution. Yet, Jesus calls us to a different path: to “bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.” This doesn’t mean condoning injustice or ignoring wrongdoing. It means choosing to pray for wisdom, compassion, and a change of heart for those you perceive as your political adversaries. It means asking God to work in their lives, to guide them towards righteousness and empathy.
  • For Christian Trump supporters who feel maligned: Conversely, if you are a Christian who staunchly supports Donald Trump and finds yourself frustrated or offended by the words and actions of Democrats, the same scripture applies to you. You are called to “bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.” Instead of allowing resentment to fester, pray for Democratic leaders and their constituents. Pray for unity, for understanding, and for God’s will to be done in their lives and in their policies.

The core principle here is revolutionary: Love extends to all, even enemies: True love, as exemplified by God, is not limited to those who are easy to love or who reciprocate our affection. It encompasses those who oppose us, curse us, and harm us.

This isn’t about ignoring the very real issues and disagreements that exist. It’s about approaching them from a spiritual posture rooted in Christ’s teaching. When we pray for those we disagree with, we are not only obeying a direct command from Jesus, but we are also:

  1. Breaking the cycle of animosity: Prayer has the power to transform hearts – theirs and ours. It prevents us from being consumed by bitterness.
  2. Demonstrating God’s character: Our willingness to love and pray for our enemies is a powerful testimony to the transformative power of the Gospel. It shows a world consumed by division that there is another way.
  3. Trusting in God’s sovereignty: We acknowledge that ultimate justice and change belong to God. We release our need for immediate vindication and trust in His perfect timing and plan.

So, no matter where you stand on the political spectrum, and no matter how deeply you feel wronged or misunderstood by the “other side,” let us commit to the radical act of prayer. Let us choose to bless rather than curse, to pray rather than retaliate. In doing so, we not only honor Christ but also become instruments of healing and reconciliation in a world desperately in need of both.

Let’s begin today. Who will you pray for, even if it feels difficult, even if it feels counterintuitive?

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Defending Your Honor Without Violence: Is There Another Way?

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It’s a scenario many of us have faced: you feel disrespected. Someone’s words or actions have crossed a line, and they’re not backing down. In that moment, a primal urge can kick in – the need to defend your honor, to stand your ground, to make it clear you won’t be trampled. For generations, especially in certain cultures and communities, violence or the threat of it has been seen as the ultimate arbiter of respect. But in a world grappling with the devastating consequences of conflict, a critical question arises: Is there a way to defend your honor without resorting to violence?
When we feel disrespected, and the other person isn’t backing down or offering an apology, the situation can quickly escalate. The adrenaline surges, emotions run high, and the instinct to retaliate can be powerful. But what if we paused for a moment and considered alternative paths? What if defending our honor didn’t have to mean engaging in a physical or even verbally aggressive battle?
Here are some approaches to consider when your honor feels challenged, and violence seems like the only option:

1. The Power of Your Voice (and Your Boundaries):

  • Verbal De-escalation: Often, disrespect stems from a misunderstanding or a projection of someone else’s issues. Calmly, clearly, and firmly stating how their words or actions impact you can be incredibly powerful. “When you say X, it makes me feel Y, and I don’t appreciate that.” This isn’t about being weak; it’s about being assertive and taking control of the narrative.
  • Setting Boundaries: Sometimes, the most honorable act is to remove yourself from a disrespectful situation. “I’m not going to engage in this conversation if you’re going to speak to me that way.” Walking away isn’t surrender; it’s a declaration that you value your peace and self-respect more than winning an argument with someone unwilling to be civil.

2. The Strength of Your Presence (and Your Reputation):

  • Dignified Silence: In some instances, engaging further only gives power to the disrespect. A calm, unwavering gaze, a slight nod, or simply turning away without a word can communicate more profound disapproval than any shouting match. Your actions speak louder than any words the other person might use.
  • Letting Your Character Speak: True honor isn’t something you fight for in a single moment; it’s built over a lifetime of consistent character, integrity, and respect for yourself and others. If someone tries to disrespect you, your existing reputation and the way you conduct yourself in the long run will often overshadow their temporary affront.

3. The Wisdom of Disengagement (and Strategic Avoidance):

  • Choosing Your Battles: Not every slight deserves a full-blown confrontation. Learning to discern what truly threatens your honor versus what is simply an annoyance or a misguided attempt at provocation is crucial. Some things are simply not worth your energy or peace of mind.
  • Strategic Avoidance: If a person is consistently disrespectful and unwilling to change, limiting or cutting off contact with them can be the ultimate act of self-preservation and honor defense. You honor yourself by not allowing toxic energy into your space.

4. The Path of Seeking Support (and Collective Action):

  • Mediation or Third-Party Intervention: In more complex or ongoing disputes, bringing in a neutral third party can help facilitate communication and find a resolution without escalation. This is often seen in workplace conflicts or community disputes.
  • Community Standards: For chronic disrespect within a community, upholding collective standards of behavior can be a powerful way to address issues. When a community collectively rejects disrespect, it creates an environment where such behavior is less likely to flourish.
    Defending one’s honor without violence requires a shift in perspective – from reaction to response, from raw emotion to thoughtful strategy. It demands self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and a deep understanding that true strength often lies not in physical dominance, but in the power of one’s character, boundaries, and the wisdom to choose peace over conflict.

What are your thoughts? Have you found effective ways to defend your honor without resorting to violence? Share your experiences in the comments below.

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Child! Just Stop 🛑

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Good Morning Most Awesome and Wonderful World Changers! Today I was thinking about the many hours, days, months, and years that I’ve wasted begging my family, friends, and co-workers to buy my books, review my books, or subscribe to my YouTube channel. Then they don’t do it, and I end up being hurt and angry. Even though as soon as I hear one of my family members or friends starting a business, even if I don’t need it, I go out a purchase or subscribe. So I felt like everybody else should do the same. A voice came to me and said, “ Kyri just stop!” Stop calling on your friends and family to be your customers. Try developing a relationship with your customers which is separate from the relationship with your friends, family, and co-workers.

All I do now, is just pray that my books, music, and YouTube channel make it into the hands of people the need them and can use them. Doing this released a lot of pressure from me and my close relationships. Hopefully this helps somebody else. Just do what you do and it will make it’s way to the right people!

Daily Affirmations: Today is a magnificent day. I choose to feel good about myself. I rest in the joy of knowing things will work out just as the should. My creations will find their way into the hands of those who need them. I am healthy, wealthy, whole, and complete. ALL IS WELL IN MY CLASSROOM. ALL IS WELL IN MY SCHOOL. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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Relax in Being You!

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I’m just sitting here thinking about how my life has been. I’ve accomplished a lot of things. I’m proud of myself. However the thing I haven’t accomplished is being comfortable with who I am. This has been a true struggle. Realizing who I am and being comfortable being who I am in public and in private. As I sit and think, I start to realize that some of my actions are not my own. They stem from the way I think others want me to behave, the way I saw others do things when I was younger, the way my family believes things should be done. Once I relax in who I truly am and clear out all the other stuff, I can enjoy being me. I can love being me. “ An old white woman, trapped in a black man body…. that is gay but not that gay” LOL 😂 I love who I am! If I make you feel uncomfortable…… just relax in being you!

Other people can’t change who you are because you are you!

Daily Affirmations: Today is a Wonderful Day. I truly love who I am. I’m in love with me. I am who I am, and who I am, I love. My life is fabulously blessed. I am healthy, wealthy, whole, and complete. ALL IS WELL IN MY CLASSROOM. ALL IS WELL IN MY SCHOOL. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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Every Little Step I Take. . .

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Good Morning Most Awesome and Wonderful World Changers! I remember a song we used to sing at church when I was little. It said, “ If I take just one step, then God will do the rest.” As a child, I truly believed that God actually comes to get involved in our daily lives. As I grew up and had many prayers unanswered, I started learning the laws of God and the universe. So it is a little true that God will do the rest. It’s the laws that God set in place in the universe that does the rest. The law of attraction says if you take a step there mentally, it will come to you. Take step toward joy and believe that you have joy; and it comes to you. If you’ve been there in your mind, you’re a step closer. Although it seems easy, it is not. Sometimes you go 2 steps forward and 3 steps back. It’s easy to settle into the fantasy of God that we learned when we were children; thinking that we can sit back and watch God do everything. It’s so freeing to realize that we can take action mentally, which will bring us steps closer. Every little step we take, gets us closer to our dreams!

Daily Affirmations: today is a magnificent day. I am taking steps closer to my dreams. I am growing and learning every day. I love myself. I love my life. Great things are flowing my way. I am one with God and God is everything. I am healthy, wealthy, whole, and complete. ALL IS WELL IN MY CLASSROOM. ALL IS WELL IN MY SCHOOL. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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Child! It’s Just A Test! Go on and Pass It!

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Good Morning Most Awesome and Wonderful World Changers! I was sitting here thinking about all the things we go through in life. And the voice in my head said, “ Child! It’s just a test. Go on and pass it.” We learn from the process of taking the test, and when we face the next test; we can use the same process. The problem comes ( well at least for me) when we pass one test and say “whew! I won’t have to worry about that anymore!” Then another test like that test comes and we freak out and for the process we used to pass the first test. So starting today, I will be grateful for my test. Every test helps me sharpen the process of test taking so the next time something doesn’t go right in my life I can say…. Child! It’s just a test. Go on and pass it!

Daily Affirmations: today is a magnificent day. I choose to move forward in joy! I love my life. My life is fabulous. I love and approve of myself. Every experience in life is an opportunity to learn and grow. I am healthy, wealthy, whole , and complete. ALL IS WELL IN MY CLASSROOM. ALL IS WELL IN MY SCHOOL. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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Stop Dreaming – Wake Up and Live!

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Good Morning Most Awesome and Wonderful World Changers! I was sitting here thinking of the time and money I have spent on making my dreams come true. Publishing, Marketing, Social Media Post, and other connections. I have spent years paying for my dreams. Sacrificing vacations, friendships, relationships, and other social interaction for the purposes of one day reaching my goals. I woke up this morning feeling like I have been so focused on dreams that I have not lived. I have not experienced the heart breaking of a relationship falling apart because I always distance myself. I have not experienced the joys of being excited because I accomplished something because I keep moving to the next thing. I don’t know the joys of sharing my life with another person because every connection is a stepping stone towards my dreams. My dreams have made me tired 😴….. it’s time to live. What if I am just meant to be a teacher and nothing more? What if I’m not the next Mr Rogers or Bill Cosby? What if I don’t reach any other goals than the ones I already reached? What if only the people I’m connected with are the only people I’m meant to connect with? I say…. Live anyway! Stop worrying about what might be or could be or could’ve been and just LIVE!

LOVE YOURSELF AND LIVE!

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Child! It is What It Is!

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Good Morning Most Awesome and Wonderful World Changers! I am learning to be content with whatever is going on in my life. There is no need of asking why things are happening I just kind of accept them and move on. I don’t know for sure that everything happens for a reason, that’s what people say all the time. However, I will say that there is a lesson in everything that happens. So the best thing we can do is just try to learn the lesson. So I ask what is the experience is you were going through today trying to teach you? That’s what I ask myself all the time, Kyri what is this trying to teach you?

Daily Affirmations: today is a great day. I love myself. Every experience is an opportunity to learn and grow. I am glad to be alive. I am healthy, wealthy, whole, and complete. ALL IS WELL IN MY CLASSROOM. ALL IS WELL IN MY SCHOOL. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. ALL IS WELL AND I AM SAFE. #IBlessMyWorldWithLove

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Be Responsible, Be Respectful, and Be Ready!

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Teaching our kids to be responsible and respectful are two of the most important concepts you could ever teach! Oh what a wonderful world we would live in, if everybody learned to be responsible and respectful. Which really means mind your own business! Take care of the things you need to do. “Secure your mask first, then help someone else” as they say before you go on a flight! But literally, that what being responsible and respectful means. The old church members used to say, “ sweep around your own front door, before you try to sweep around mine”. As educators, it is important to teach our children these lessons. If we are going to raise up the next citizens, this is what we need to teach!